Table 3 Structured deliberation method

1. What is the situation?

2. What are your feelings about the situation? What is so difficult about this situation?

3. What is your specific question?

4. What are the feelings of the others? (Your conversation partner(s) and other stakeholders involved in this conversation, for instance your patient, colleague, or manager. Ask them for their feelings, or try to put yourself in their shoes if they are not present during the dialogue)

5. What is important to you? How does your social background influence what you find important? Where and how you grew up, your age, cultural background, spiritual beliefs, sexuality and gender identity, etc

6. What is important to the others? Also inquire and reflect on their background

7. What do you learn from this exploration?

8. What will you do? If you go through these steps with others, first ask them what they would do in your place